Ah, communication

13 Mar

Here’s how our conversation went:

Andrew:  “Babe, we have some errands to run, I just don’t know if I want to work on my message for Sunday now and go later, or go run errands now and work on my message later.”

Me:  “I am willing to do whatever.  I just want to take a shower first.”

Andrew:  “Thats fine.  Go shower.”

So, I go take a shower.  I take my time.  Hot shower felt good.

I get out.  Me:  (from the top of the stairs)  “Honey, are you working on your message now?  Should I hurry and get ready or….”

Andrew:  “I’m working.  Don’t bother me right now.  Do whatever you want.  I will tell you when I need you.”

I interpret that as…. “do whatever I want.”  And what I want is to put on sweats and sit on the couch and look at coupons.  30 minutes go by.

Andrew:  “Are you ready to go?”

Me:  “No.  I’m sitting on the couch with wet hair.”

Andrew:  “Why are you not ready? I told you I wanted to go run errands.”

Me:  “The last thing you told me was that I could do whatever I wanted and you would tell me when you needed me.”

Andrew:  “But why would you disregard our previous conversation?  I told you that I would tell you when I needed you.”

Me:  “Right.  You would let me know.”

Andrew:  “I thought you would be ready.”

Me: “Why would I be ready?  I thought I could do whatever I wanted.”

Andrew: “But I expected that when I would tell you I needed you, you would be ready.”

Is it just me, or was this confusing to you too? 

He is under some pressure.  I understand this, so I hurry to get ready after that conversation.  Now I am really ready for when he needs me.

I am still sitting on the couch.

4 Responses to “Ah, communication”

  1. jenny ewalt March 13, 2010 at 6:13 p03 #

    I am trying not to laugh too loudly right now, not at you but simply because I am sure I’ve had that EXACT same conversation with Marc… several dozen times.
    Love is patient, love is kind…. and all that jazz!

  2. Tracy Chelette March 13, 2010 at 6:13 p03 #

    That is funny and unfortunately not so unfamiliar. Have a great day.

  3. Cristine March 13, 2010 at 6:13 p03 #

    I love you two! 🙂

  4. Carole Heinrichs March 16, 2010 at 6:13 p03 #

    I have found that a “10 minute warning” works well both ways. When you have kids, you will see how important it is to “prepare” the recipient of your conversation for action! Learning is a daily experience and after 35 years of marriage, your dad and I still give each other “miscues!”

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