Archive | April, 2008

You are not alone

17 Apr

So a few months ago Andrew and I started leading a “pre-married” small group here at Sandals.  5 engaged couples (one of which is now married) attended for 12 weeks.  We talked about communication, finances, spiritual, physical, and emotional intimacy, etc. etc.   We loved it!!!  Out of any ministry that Andrew and I can do together, I feel like this is what God has called us to.  Plus we were blessed with a group of awesome people.

After 12 weeks of meeting we officially called it quits (you can’t be a pre-married group forever.  Eventually they all get married).  But not meeting just didn’t fit.  We thought we would start a new one, but it hasn’t happened yet.  So we had a reunion tonight.  It is amazing to get into a room of people and be supported and encouraged in knowing that you aren’t the only couple who has issues!!!  I think the biggest thing that the couples learned in our small group is that they are NOT ALONE!! What a concept.

Community.  Love it. 

This is a first

5 Apr

Right now it is 1:30 in the morning.  Andrew is fast asleep next to me.  Had a cup of coffee before we started a movie at 10:30 and now, I am tired but my eyes have not shut yet.  It is usually my husband who is staying up while I konk out.

I have learned, however, not to wake him to ask him to do anything.  If you have spent any given amount of time with us you know that one semi-sore subject in our marraige is that Andrew likes to sleep on the couch.  Sometimes I want him in bed with me but he would rather “nap” first, then get up, brush teeth 3 hours later and come to bed.  I know, it doesn’t make sense to me either. 

So last night he falls asleep on the couch and I decide not to make an issue of it.  But after almost 30 minutes of me laying awake, I call downstairs to ask him to come up (married almost 5 years.  I sleep better when he’s here).  Here’s how the conversation went:

B:  “Andrew can you come upstairs, I can’t go to sleep.”

A:  “Do you want the whole thing?”

B:  “What? I don’t know what you are talking about”

A:  (a little annoyed) “The computer”

B:  “Why would I want the computer?”

A:  (even more annoyed and now very grumpy) “Its just a question.  Geez.”

How foolish of me.